Update For 12-steppers – Oct 2024

 As usual, we had a lot of great responses to our steppers from our callers:

– After the assessment I can see that I do fit the definition, it’s a heavy realization to have, but reading that I am not alone makes it just a tad easier.I am going to try to make use of online resources to share and connect. Thank you so much

-I think the assessment results and you are right. I am overwhelmed with shame and denial, worse is being consumed by shame for all I did when I was drunk, and then I drink to forget. Alcoholism being a combination of mental obsession and an overwhelming physical craving is spot on. I have an oral fixation and tend to fixate a lot with bpd and add. Thank you for your response and the online resources. I am currently in the Netherlands, but I don’t understand a lick of dutch so online resources are best. Anyway, I will try my best to do better. It all just feels like a lot all the time.

– Thanks. Appreciate you getting back to me and sharing some of your story.  It’s a pretty bleak time for me right now.  Unemployed,  wife hates me,  kids are confused and I got WASTED last night when I should have been supporting my wife and caring for the kids.

Oh well.  I have made contact with the Eastern Cape office and will be attending my first meet tomorrow evening.  I’d rather go on person than online I think.  Looking forward to it

-Thank you so much for the info!

– Thank you, I appreciate you. I will contact online it is what you did d 15 years ago. Any suggestions of what one. I’m in Cinnaminson nj online if possible I have researched nearby in house meetings I prefer now to stay at home as I am have suffered some great loss this ye

– Hi thank you so much for your response. It’s wonderful to have such resources available internationally and remotely. I’ll make sure to pass this on to my partner.
Thank you again

-(Not a “Good response” but a heartbreaking one):  “I relapsed in 2016 after 26 years of sobriety. I’m in bad shape now.”

– Thank you so much I am actually based in Johannesburg Midrand then I will be in contact to set out my meetings.

– Thanks for the support, I am determine to start and my first step is attended an AA meeting in Ballito tomorrow. Just to let you know, God bless.

– Thanks Wise advise I will keep it in mind, I hanged a paper on refregerator with the goal, I will mark each day as ypu say as a todays which are acheived.
You are very kind to respond as help, Wish you best

– (From Turkey)-Hello, your Email made my heart smile as I am licing alone and for some reasons I could not reach help, so I am happy to hear your story just felt I am not alone and the light in the tunnel gave me big hope. It is my third day clean and I hope to conyinue completely, so  will follow links and ask people help which I think is a good way to stop. Also thanks for your advise. I promissed myself if i quit it completely, I give away some amount of alchohol cost as appreciation to society. 

– Thank you for your response, made me smile. I live alone and I was clean for years and I started beera again this is critical for me to be clean again as fast as i can so I appreciate any help like your kind and complete message. 

I will read again carefuly and follow links and advises hopefuly I can never drink , this is my third day clean and I want to keep it. Warm regards

– Thank you for helping me…I am so pleased for your answer and for your corporation..Thanks once again.

– Thank you very much…I’ll use the link for online meetings

-Thank you very much I was in a meeting at 9 am this morning and will be doing another today. I got some phone numbers in the meeting that said I can call anytime I want to drink. It was very helpful and I love in a small town there wasn’t a meeting anywhere near me till this evening and I knew I would need help before that. But thank you and the program so much.

-The App is fantastic. Thanks so much

-Thanx Very Helpful I Appreciate You

-Thank you so much for taking the time to write me back and provide all the great info about your experience getting started.   I will share this with my loved one.   I wish you all the best!